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Weinstadt, which directly translates as “Wine City” in English, can be found just 15 minutes outside of Stuttgart, Germany, along the Remstal Route in the heart of the Rems Valley and wine center in southwestern Germany.

True to its name, this picturesque burg is surrounded by rolling hills and vineyards, which attract tourists both German and foreign to enjoy hiking, cycling, and scenic drives in what is regarded by some to be the “Tuscany of Germany.”

Vanessa Forcelli, a native of Weinstadt and mother to a 15-month-old daughter named Maya, shared with me what it is like to live in such a place and raise children in Germany, and offered great tips for parents planning travel to Germany with young children.

Q: Vanessa, you grew up in Weinstadt, so you must really like the place to decide to move back as an adult. Do you recommend it to travelers?

 

Vanessa: When I moved away from Weinstadt because of work, I was not very happy about it but I always knew I would come back. My childhood was a great experience there with all that beautiful nature, rolling hills, vineyards, lots of barbeque places in the vineyards, picnics areas and good restaurants. I always hoped to be able to give this experience to my kids one day.

I moved back to Weinstadt with my husband approximately three years ago, which made me very happy. This is definitely a great place to visit for people who love traditional German buildings, beautiful nature and good Swabian food.

Q: The Rems Valley sounds like a great place to spend time outdoors. Is that very easy to do with small children?

 

Vanessa: On a day-to-day basis, many kids, parents and friends go bicycling, hiking, wandering, do sports or have picnics in this area if the weather allows it. Socializing is very important in German culture, so people get together outdoors a lot.

 

Oftentimes, I just go on stroller walks with Maya in our hometown. She loves being outside. This way, we run into people we know and make new friends. We live within walking distance of “downtown”, which is quite nice because you can do some grocery shopping on foot or just sit there and “people watch” and find out what is new in town.

 

Q: Are there any specific places in your area that you’d recommend to visitors with children?

 

Vanessa: There is a great outdoor park called “Talaue” in Maya’s birth town Waiblingen, about a 10-minute drive from our house. When it is sunny, we jump on our bicycles and pedal there with Maya in her bike trailer. Talaue Park is also a good place to meet other parents and children. When the kids are done playing, you can go to a nice outdoor biergarten (beer garden) located right in the park. It offers a big playground within eyeshot while the moms and dads enjoy their beer!

 

Another popular place to go is the Zoo, or “Wilhelma,” in Stuttgart. There are also outdoor theme parks, for example Tripsdrill, an amusement park located 45 minutes northwest of Stuttgart in a town called Cleebronn. Maya loves it there because there are lots of things for her to do, like going on rides, water play areas, playgrounds and a wild animal park where you can feed the free-range deer.

 

Q: That all sounds great, but how do parents keep the kids busy when the weather is bad?

 

Vanessa: Sensapolis is brand new and the only indoor playground we have in our area. It is located in Sindelfingen, which is approx. 45 min. away from Weinstadt or 20 min. southwest of Stuttgart. This is a place that I would definitely recommend to anyone with children. We are very excited about this new place, and we go there whenever we want to get out with Maya on a rainy or cold day — a frequent occurrence during German winters.

Q: I know that children in Germany must now ride in the back seat and in booster seats until they are 12 years old or about 59” tall. What else can you tell traveling parents about car seat laws in Germany?

 

Vanessa: You are required to use restraint systems which have been tested, approved and marked with the appropriate approval label according to the ECE regulation 44.  U.S. child car seats are allowed in Europe only if they comply with the provisions of Directive 2003/20/EC and have a label that reads either ECE R44/03, or ECE R 44/04. Unfortunately most US child car seats don't comply with these standards or carry the corresponding labels. Thus, U.S. car seats are not usually allowed in Germany or Europe.

 

Q: Interesting. Have you ever heard of anyone getting fined for using a foreign car seat in Germany?

 

Vanessa: I personally have not heard of anyone getting in trouble.

 

Q: The public transportation is generally good in Germany, but how is it for a mom carting around babies, toddlers, and strollers?

 

Vanessa: Germany has a really good public transportation system. However, it is simply physically very difficult to get around pushing a baby stroller or travelling by train or bus with more than one child. It is especially difficult if you use street cars. They are unfortunately not all designed for strollers so you are dependent on other passengers to help you out. I think the best way to get around with babies and young children is still the car.

 

Q: So do you think visitors with small children should just rent a car, or could they get by using taxis in Germany?

 

Vanessa: I would recommend renting a car. It is easier and you can travel on your own schedule. You can rent relatively cheap cars from rental agencies like Europcar, Avis, Sixt, etc. These car rental agencies can also provide you with a car seat. I do not recommend using a taxi unless it is an emergency since it is really expensive. The other problem with using a taxi is the car seat. Even if taxis are supposed to carry car seats most of them don’t. If you order a taxi by phone in advance, you should always make sure to order a car seat. Many cab drivers will not take you if you don’t have a car seat with you.

Q: What kinds of restaurants and other places to eat do you recommend parents visit — or avoid — with babies and young children?

 

Vanessa: It is very uncommon in our area to go to restaurants with babies and young children. If parents decide to do so, they usually go to McDonald’s — yes, shocking! I am not a fan of fast food chains, and I made a decision to bring my baby along with me wherever I want and need to be. Even if it means going to a restaurant in Germany.

Most hosts look at you like you are not serious, but I have learned to accept that. Instead, I kindly ask for a high chair and smile at them. Restaurants are just not prepared for babies, kids and strollers. In Stuttgart, I know of one steak restaurant, Block House, that actually provides not only a high chair but also crayons and paper.

 

Q: Where can parents find baby supplies like diapers, baby food and baby medicines while traveling in Germany? Are there any special words that would help them?

 

Vanessa: Any good sorted grocery store provides diapers and baby food. Drug stores like “Schlecker” and “dm” do carry baby food, diapers, etc. and some over-the-counter medicines. It is best to get medicines from the pharmacy though. Words that could help them are “Babynahrung” for baby food, and “Windeln” for diapers. Most people here do understand at least some basic English, so English-speaking travelers should be able to communicate successfully with any salesperson.

Q: Has raising children in southern Germany changed very much since you were a child?

 

Vanessa: Yes, it has changed. I remember playing outside a lot when I was a child. Nowadays, children have play dates or have a very structured and organized schedule. The result is fewer kids outside and, in my opinion, bored kids when they are not told what to do. They usually hang out at some organization or at someone’s apartment or house. This makes it a lot harder to get in touch with other moms because they drive their kids around so much. Unfortunately, this means they have a limited amount of time to socialize with others or to even get their house work done.

 

Q: Is it more common for new mothers to work or to stay home?

 

Vanessa: More and more, new mothers are trying to go back to work, which is usually very difficult to do for them since good, reasonably-priced childcare facilities are not readily available here. Many parents in Germany are struggling with money and cannot afford to pay a babysitter or a child care center. I believe most moms go back to work when their child goes to Kindergarten (what we call preschool in the U.S.). Kindergarten is not very expensive, and their child is still in good care.

 

Approximately three months after giving birth to Maya, I tried to go back to work part-time. I gave myself very little time to get adjusted to the new baby and the new situation because I was really confused about what to do: stay at home or go back to work. Before I was a Mom, I used to be a so-called workaholic. Always at work, always busy, career-driven. My husband and I have been running our law firm together since 2001, and we have become quite successful. We actually just merged with a California-based law firm, Carroll, Burdick & McDonough LLP.

 

I really loved my job and always thought that I would be able to continue my career as before – even as a Mom. Well, I was wrong. Becoming a mother changed a lot and mostly, I just felt so torn inside. I wanted to be at work, but I also wanted to be with my baby. After being so stressed out about all this, I decided to work more from home.  This way, I can focus on my work but still check on the baby when I want, which gives me a lot of comfort.

 

 

Q: Are German mothers allowed a “maternity leave” by the government or by private businesses?

 

Vanessa: Yes, mothers are allowed a paid maternity leave by the government. Maternity leave generally starts six weeks before the due date and ends eight weeks after birth. Maternity leave payments are in addition to paid parental leave.

 

Q: What do you mean when you say, “paid parental leave”?

 

Vanessa: In Germany, parents may get up to 1,800 Euros per month per child born in 2007 or later. Although parents were already entitled to receive up to 300 Euros per month per child, this regulation was seen as insufficient for working families because it simply was not enough to cover normal child and household expenses.

This parenthood benefit is called “Elterngeld” in German, which roughly translates into “parent’s money.” Under the new system, a mother or father is paid 67% of their net income earned over the 12 months preceding the birth, but not less than 300 Euros and not more than 1,800 Euros.

 

Those who have not worked before the birth can only get 300 Euros. A parent demanding this paid parental leave must not work more than 30 hours a week after the birth, and if there is no reduction of working hours to 30 or less per week, the parent only gets 300 Euros. A mother or a father can receive parent’s money for up to 14 months.

 

In addition to the parent's money, the German government pays parents a child allowance for each child under 18 years, regardless of the parent's income: 154 Euros per child and month, from the fourth child on 179 Euros.

 

Q: I’m impressed — and as a mother of 3, a little envious! What motivated this new paid parental leave act?

 

Vanessa: This policy is another step to increase the number of babies born in Germany, a country with an alarming low birth rate of 1.36 children per woman. To maintain the level of the population, a rate of 2.1 is regarded as necessary. But Germany is not the European country with the lowest rate. The Eastern European countries that became members of the EU in 2004 (except Estonia) show even lower figures and Italy, Spain and Greece are behind Germany.